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Synergy of Head and Heart
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admin on 12 December, 2009 02:36:00
 
When we realise that we have a talent of disregarding our fears/desires or being
run by them, we need to step back and look at the pattern. The mind helps us to
do this. It helps us to see the big picture.
We see how our insecurity and emotional neediness lead to impulsive actions
that get us involved in inappropriate relationships. Or we see how our fears
prevent us from opening our hearts to the possibility of new, healthy
relationships. We understand our pattern so that we can see it the next time it
manifests in our lives. Then we can make conscious choices, instead of
unconscious ones.
This doesn't mean we analyse our lives to death. We don't escape into our
heads. We learn to detach emotionally just enough to gain perspective on our
situation. The mind understands what the heart feels. The heart listens to what
the mind sees. They commune. And, as they do, integration happens in the psyche.
We want to make choices that honour what we feel and are consistent with the
goals that we have set for our lives. Heart and head need to be in constant
dialogue if we are to make sensitive, intelligent choices.
Sometimes we act based on a feeling that something is right, even though the
mind is sceptical. We need to pay attention to the outcome when we act
intuitively. Do we make good choices when we do this? If we do, we want to keep
trusting our intuition. If we don't, we need to question if it is really
intuition we are following. Sometimes, what we call intuition is just our desire
or our fear run amuck.
As we experiment, we get to know our strengths and weaknesses. We learn to
ascertain when we are ambivalent and when we are clear, when we are open and
intuitive and when we are emotionally reactive. We get to know our emotional
landscape. That is important work. We can't live in our hearts if we are
unwilling to undertake this exploration.
By Paul Ferrini from his book titled "Grace Unfolding"
May you find that beautiful and crucial (yet sometimes aversive) balance
between the head and the heart!